Narcissists Dissolve Your Ability to Feel Hope
Most people don't know or understand the damage a narcissist can do to a person. Sure we hear stories and see stuff on social media about it. Even some 51 part TikTok stories. And those stories are important to get out and be heard.
But most people don't stop to think about what happens to the victims of people who are very high on the narcissism spectrum.
Side note. Every human has narcissistic tendencies. Narcissists and Narcissistic Personality Disorder are people who are extremely high in the spectrum.
Anyways, stop an ask yourself. If you've watched information or stories about narcissists have you stopped and thought about what was done to their victims? How being around that narcissist changes your brain through the emotional abuse, lies, gaslighting, manipulation, and / or deceit?
The lists of damage vary somewhat depending on the scenario for sure. But I would wager that one of the damaging aspects would be the victims ability to feel hope is dissolved.
Now you might wonder, why I used the term "dissolved". It's intentional for sure. Because it's a slow process, it doesn't happen instantly. Over time the narcissist reprograms your brain to stop feeling the benefits and good feelings of hope. But they don't rob you of the idea of hope. And that is where things get ugly.
You see many people in any type of relationship with a highly narcissistic person will retain their hopes and dreams, aspirations, goals, everything. But what they do not notice is the feeling of hope disappears from them over time. So they are left hoping in their thoughts, but gaining none of the strength that comes from feeling hope.
This is a very dangerous place to be. It allows that person to become confused and controlled. Because they think hope, but lost the feelings of hope. This is one of the primary tactics of narcissists. To just waist their victims life away slowly over time.
When you have hopeful thoughts but no feelings, you allow time to continue to pass by and you never work to achieve your hopes. You are not empowered by moving towards your hopes. Time just passes by... days... months... years. And you don't even realize it.
Now the good news is you can get your feeling back!
You can get your feeling back!
But the reality is, there is only one way to do that. Severe all contact with the narcissist. Cut them out of your life so you can heal. This could be a family member, romantic relationship, friend, whatever. But you cannot continue to drink anesthetic, and expect to stop being numb.
Perhaps you don't know much about this. Perhaps you think this could never happen to me. Perhaps you think this could never happen to you, again.
But what if reading this post stirred something in the back of your head? What if thinking about the ability to feel being dissolved sent a shiver down your back? Or what if you stopped and thought about it for a moment... and realized you don't remember what it feels like to feel hope?
Do you remember what hope feels like?