How They Do It
Obviously the dude is toxic and all that jazz. And the comments were a 💩 show, just like you would expect. So instead of engaging in that thread of typical comments I decided to...
I saw a post on X where a man was going after a women who had lost 100 lbs and kept it off after having two babies.
He went into saying "You will always be fat..."
Obviously the dude is toxic and all that jazz. And the comments were a 💩 show, just like you would expect. So instead of engaging in that thread of typical comments I decided to point out the tactic he was using so that people understood the toxic mechanics happening underneath the discourse.
The tactic the man used is one of men who enjoy mentally and emotionally abusing women. He's defining her as who she was at her low point, to put that seed of depression and definition into her mind long term.
It's the tactic of abusers and pimps, who want to get the women under their control, or just make them hurt inside every day for his own sick mental pleasure.
For examples a man like this will say to a women "you won't ever do better than me, you're not good enough for a good man". to keep her from leaving him.
The truth is of course she can get someone better, wayyyy better. And also can get a good man. The only think keeping that from happening is her staying with the abuser. Which is the one thing the abuser is working hard to keep her from doing. Keep her from even thinking about.
You see that's the tactic. If he can keep you from ever even thinking positively of yourself, positively for your life, and keep you from having hope for a better future then he can keep you right where you are and abuse and betray you over and over. Because you won't stop him by simply leaving him.