Avoid The Baseball Bat

Divorce granted me a skill I never had before.

Before my divorce, I was not able to ask myself if I was wrong.

I always unintentionally assumed my opinion was right, and I would only change once the "baseball bat of reality" hit me in the face.

But having gone through the divorce I gained the skill to be able to look myself in the mirror and ask myself the question:

Am I wrong?
What if I’m wrong?

Being able to ask myself that question, before the baseball bat hits me in the face is an amazing improvement on my life!

There’s a lot of people that are not necessarily arrogant to the point where they believe they’re always right. But instead they just don’t have the ability to think thought the process to ask themselves.

What if they’re wrong

Now you can argue that it’s dysfunction no matter what for sure...

But there is a distinction between dysfunction and arrogance when it comes to this topic.

You see before my divorce, I wouldn’t stop and ask myself if I was conducting myself in a good or bad way for my marriage. It just never crossed my mind to question myself.

But having gone through The divorce process I had to deal with the fact that I had done a lot of things wrong. But I also didn’t stop with:

"I did things wrong"

I kept going down that thought process even further because I recognized that while I was doing the wrong things... I didn’t realize, I didn't think they were the wrong things.

Which is dysfunction.

Doing unhealthy things, but thinking in your head that it’s totally normal is a great working example of dysfunction.

I arrived at a fun realization:

A great superpower in life is being able to look yourself in the mirror, genuinely, and ask yourself: "Am I wrong? Am I dysfunctional? Am I mistaken?"